I lost two beloved family members this year. In February, we said goodbye to my mom, who passed away at the age of 93 just after celebrating her birthday. Then, just recently, we lost my sister, Monet, who was 64 when she passed away in San Francisco, surrounded by her loving husband, Jim, and my sister, Roca, who flew in to be by her side.
I write this in fond memory of Monet, who fought a courageous battle against lung cancer for ten long years. She showed incredible strength and resilience throughout her journey. She was an extraordinary woman—a magna cum laude graduate in economics from the University of San Francisco with a master’s in sports psychology. Monet excelled academically and athletically; from being a champion swimmer to becoming the first Filipino-American bodybuilder on the West Coast, she truly set the bar high.
With my sister Monet in San Francisco
Growing up under her shadow at St. Scholastica’s College, I often felt the pressure to match her achievements. She founded Stay Active and Healthy, dedicating her life to promoting wellness and inspiring others to lead healthier lives. Even as she faced cancer with grace, her spirit remained unbroken. Her legacy is one of strength and determination—qualities that will forever inspire those who know her.
We will always cherish the memories we created with her.
These losses have made me reflect on what truly matters in life.
We often get caught up in our busy lives and need to remember to appreciate the people around us. Here are a few lessons I’ve learned:
1. Value Time Together: Spend quality time with loved ones. Whether it’s a phone call or a meal together, these moments are precious.
2. Express Your Feelings: Don’t wait for special occasions to tell people you love them. A simple “I love you” can mean so much.
3. Create Memories: Engage in activities that bring you closer—travel together, start new traditions, or reminisce about old times.
4. Support Dreams: Pursue your passions and support each other’s dreams. Life is too short to live according to other’s expectations.
5. Practice Gratitude: Focus on what you have rather than what you’ve lost. Gratitude can help shift your perspective.
These life lessons from loss have reinforced a powerful truth: life is short. I am reminded of how essential it is to appreciate every moment with our loved ones.
Rest in peace, dear sister and mom; you will always be in our hearts.
In loving service,
Rosan
