Let’s be real: Valentine’s Day hype can feel… crushing. Not everyone’s in a place to celebrate hearts and flowers, and that’s okay. This is for anyone carrying a weight in their chest, for those with broken hearts.
And by “broken hearts,” I don’t just mean after a breakup. Heartbreak is that gut punch of disappointment when a dream falls apart. It’s the quiet ache of lost trust. It’s the feeling of being let down by life itself. If that’s you, I feel you and want you to know you’re not alone.
The Neuroscience of Heartbreak: It’s a Real Pain
Here’s the thing: When we feel heartbroken, it’s not “just” in our heads. Neuroimaging studies show that emotional pain, like losing someone or going through a breakup, activates the same brain regions as physical pain. The anterior cingulate cortex and the insula light up, making heartbreak a very real, physical experience. That’s why it feels so heavy, so debilitating.
But there’s hope. We can tap into the brain’s natural healing abilities. To heal, we need to soothe those overactive nerves and gently process the emotions tied to that pain.
Finding Relief: A Meditation to Soothe your Heart and Mind
That’s why I want to share a meditation practice that can bring a little peace and healing to your heart. Think of it as a mini “reset” button for your heart and mind.
Meditation for Healing a Broken Heart (11-62 Minutes)
This meditation, inspired by Kundalini Yoga, calms the nervous system and promotes emotional healing. Here’s how to do it:
Taught this meditation for healing in the Open the Heart Chakra class series
Sit comfortably with a straight spine. You can sit on a chair or the floor. Relax your shoulders and neck. Gently press your palms together in a prayer pose. Let the tips of your middle fingers lightly touch the space between your eyebrows (the “Third Eye” point). This point is associated with intuition and calming the mind. Keep your forearms parallel to the ground and lift your elbows slightly. This helps maintain energy flow. Close your eyes and gently turn your focus inward. There’s no mantra or specific breathing technique (pranayama) required. There is no mantra involved. Just sit quietly, breathe, and allow yourself to be present with your feelings without judgment. Acknowledge them, but don’t get swept away by them.
Whether you’re mending a broken heart or simply feeling out of sorts, give this meditation a try. It might just be the little bit of peace and self-compassion you need right now.
Remember: You are Worthy of Love and Healing
Healing takes time, so don’t rush it or expect instant miracles. The most important thing is showing up for yourself, even if it’s just for 11 minutes each day. This Valentine’s season (and beyond!), instead of focusing on what’s missing, gently turn your attention inward and nurture yourself.
Remember: You are worthy of love – especially your own love. And you will heal.
In loving service,
Rosan
